They dig up the past in attempt to get the upper hand. Not sleeping well. Constantly feeling a sense of doom. Do all discussions have to wait for this 15 minutes? When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue. Always on guard. The end of your relationship. She shares her thoughts and observations on the matter. Thank you for writing this! Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. 1. When that’s ignored, over ruled or taken for granted, there is nothing you can do. Facial expressions give us plenty of feedback. 2. Working in the garden, driving in a car or going for a walk. Don’t do it angry. She goes looking for hints. It should never be acceptable regardless of the excuse. Annoyance. Do you need the person to agree, disagree or are you wanting to get an issue off your chest? If you dropped everyone that annoyed you, there would be nobody around. This post was about people we talk with. We women often get a bad rap for that, but the truth is, guys do it too and more frequently than they will ever admit. You know when you’ve gotten to this stage you’re putting off the tough talk. That is my knee jerk reaction. When that’s ignored, over ruled or taken for granted, there is nothing you can do. Until finally she cannot stand it anymore. Speak from your own perspective. It's a quick and easy way to talk to someone without having to entertain them consistently if we don't want to. Do you want to talk about it? Its a great idea Dana – Giving a person a timeframe to come and have a chat. If you feel as though you can’t, there are trust issues. Poor communication skills, lack of self-awareness and blame have a way of really knocking relationships about. Not all conversations will have the outcome you planned. Aware of the individual’s temperament. They come from people we love. We mentally go back in history when we have no idea what’s coming. If they say it "needs to be in person" or they "need time to sit down and really talk about it," just tell them that you're not interested in playing games and if they felt the need to go out of their way to alert you that they needed to talk, they'd go ahead and say it, or forever hold their peace. He even asks her to come into the office to help out. Eye contact is not as intense as face to face. I worry, sometimes for days, that either a) I’m in trouble or b) someone close to me is in trouble. It offers relief and comfort. You feel there is a problem but you can’t explain it. Having your say is only one half of the conversation. That was ease tension. Something that could mean the end of your relationship unless you take it REALLY seriously. Chatting side by side. People are not mind readers. MRW someone says We need to talk. He immediately drops his brief case to the floor and goes to her side. Relationships Evolve When They Commit to Conscious Growth The mind takes over. She says, “We need to talk”. 1. Priyanka recently posted…Top 10 must visit National parks in India. Generally after the ‘We need to talk’, conversation something has to follow. You just need to find the right things to talk about. Ahhh yes. Prev Next Slideshow (You can use your keyboard arrow keys ) Follow @MemeGuy1. Nathaniel Hawthorne. When you’re lonely for a long time, the need to talk to someone eventually becomes pressing, even desperate – and for good reason. Most of the time these individuals try and throw some dirt your way. Even when, “We Need To Talk” comes out pleasantly it has people walking on egg shells. In this period you express both trivial and important matters. It is never good to entertain conversations like these when one or both person is angry. Appreciation. These talks only work if both parties have respect for one another. Is this person an interrupter? Feeling sad. In amongst the conversation you say:-. Don’t speak about this in front of other people. What a fool”. Writing is never too far from my thoughts. Don’t have a person building walls. The Compromise In a Relationship‘. This time slot can be the thing that keeps the whole relationship together. What once united the both of you is now hard work. Don’t use it as ammunition. Attempting to steer the conversation onto another subject. OK…how is three o’clock for you or tomorrow? You’re not sure what’s going on, although you’re no longer comfortable with it. I recall some years back calling my then husband on the telephone telling him he needed to get his….home because we need to talk. Then what? Don’t use it as ammunition. The key to satisfaction, says Dr Love, is to find ways to connect without words: ‘Everyone needs to learn that before we can communicate by speaking, we need to connect … You may be surprised to find that prolonged loneliness has profound physical implications. Don’t we love happy endings? She says, “We need to talk”. So what happens when it does not? Other people are consciously cut from your life. Donna Merrill recently posted…3 Steps To Selecting A Blogging Niche. Let me know if you would like to get into the nitty gritty of confrontation. – Shannon L. Alder. It’s about fixing a problem. A guarantee. It’s up to the individual how much they want to divulge. You have to either accept it or move on. She’s worried. When the other person is talking, listen for a key word or phrase, and then use it as a springboard to dive into your next comment or question. But over the years I’ve learned to take a deep breath and go face to face of what is to come. The success of communication from “we need to talk” depends heavily on the altitude of person on each side – respect, cool, eager to see the issue and find the solution for it. A potentially explosive or upsetting matter should be managed delicately. One would have to question, how a relationship can continue under these circumstances. A change. Thank you for sharing your story. This turned into a habit and life went on. Lack of the communication erodes friendships, families, partnerships. That being said Dana, you have already done many hard yards, so being open and allowing another person to express themselves would be something you would encourage. We Need Space. What happens if you don’t have the conversation? Another compelling and insightful post. But what if the husband walks in from work and the wife says, “We need to talk”. Acknowledge you may feel ill at ease over what you’re about to say. Scenario after scenario keeps popping into her mind. As you shared, couples should learn to share things together. I’ve personally found I have a more difficult time if I’m the one needing to talk vs the other way around because while I can control my own reactions, I can’t control someone else’s. ‘This isn’t an ending. “We need to talk.”  We’re on guard as soon as we hear these words. When someone says “We need to talk” ryebreadds liked this . You will address what has to be addressed. I love the essence that this post conveys as it encourages us to be more open and realizing it’s okay to not feel okay about things. When someone tells me “We need to talk” I want to hide under my bed. The talk instantly evaporates all her worry and sadness. Rachel writes about Self-Development. “I don’t know what to say…give me a moment…”. Finger pointing will always put people on the defensive. Her mantra is ‘reflect on your behaviour, develop strategies to improve, so you continually grow’. Some relationships end naturally. We can’t expect others to know what we are thinking or feeling. If you really need to get something off your chest right now, you can take a shortcut: an online peer support chat. Get into a daily habit of sharing what is going on in your mind. I think sometimes it is Okay to say nothing, but if it is a subject that keeps coming up and we don’t address, it just can keep growing. If you’re serious, face to face or side by side is advised. Talking over you. It’s only when they start stepping on toes that we have to make adjustments. ‘The Girl & The Professor’. No kids running around. To me, timing is everything because if someone isn’t in a good place, it could ruin things right away. RELATED:  5 Easy Steps For Having A Hard Conversation. Chatting away and in movies. Not all communication will finish off positive. Maybe your partner works till 6pm and needs to come home and cook for the kids? we were doing all good with this girl, but out of nowhere she stop chatting with me, and i ask for advice to my closest friends, we all thought it was the normal stuff like she wants me to start the conversation, one day later after i sent her my message, she answered that i didn’t do anything wrong at all, that she is is trying to figure out some things and that she needs time. We can’t expect others to know what we are thinking or feeling. It looked too flirtatious. 10 years ago. You know of several situation where you felt something wasn’t right. Our Thoughts and Beliefs – Are They True? Jennifer Giacoppo recently posted…‘How to get more out of your day-Yes please!’. However in reality that is not always the case. These words don’t come from strangers. Don’t speak about this in front of other people. Feeling sad. Lack of communication and I think what is worse is that putting another’s feeling’s before ours is part of the reason a lot of people don’t communicate. When someone says he or she is thinking about suicide, or says things that sound as if the person is considering suicide, it can be very upsetting. People feel cornered. Throughout the day you make a quick call to your partner. Rather than be on the defence before the conversation has begun. answer #2. ellie. If one person is travelling put in an effort to do this over the phone. Serious talks aren’t had because they’re enjoyed. The Compromise In a Relationship. Working in the garden, driving in a car or going for a walk. Generally after the ‘We need to talk’, conversation something has to follow. You can’t work on yourself if you’re not willing to confront the truths that are deep within you. It’s something I really struggle with but this has given me some tips and ideas to ponder. Instead of giving her his complete attention he sighs is aggravation? 00:10:22 - We Need To Talk. This is good for the person who constantly butts in. Moving on is easier said than done. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue, 5 Easy Steps For Having A Hard Conversation, He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share it on your favorite social media site. i do not talk with the people i am not concern to. But things that linger in the mind. I agree the tone, the body language, the facial expression are all factors when we communicate. Tags: reaction, talk, animated, gif. Say it like it is. The mind takes over. Throwing information at another in the heat of the moment. But I guess it's because everytime I've had one of those "we need to talk" or "I need to talk to you" discussions it ended up badly for me. It’s tougher maintaining a relationship that should have been over long ago. The person I am talking to is not the enemy, I don’t want to win a conversation, I want myself and the other person to get something beneficial out of the time we spend together. Noticing the tenor of the conversation can help you figure out if the person isn’t engaged and cue you to exit elegantly. It’s an example of how things can spin out of control really fast when anger builds. Describe the situation and how it impacted you. Just those four words. Scenario after scenario keeps popping into her mind. “We need to talk.” We’re on guard as soon as we hear these words. Don’t we love happy endings? If you decide to bring up the issue to someone with professional experience in handling it, one easy way to have an honest conversation about it and your concerns would be to bring it outside the office. She decides to talk about it with him. You can send an email or write a letter. So what happens when it does not? Some people are dodgers. Discussions of a sensitive nature, should be without interruption. We’ve talked about a few things you can say, but the most essential ninja strategy is to listen. Other people are consciously cut from your life. So true Stella, when one party has no interest in talking, it really is time to move on. No kids running around. (Use of non-threatening emoticons are encouraged) 2. An apology. Keep in mind if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you like to be presented with the same conversation? The mind will take over and come up with its own conclusions. More to the point she is going to corner him and confront him. When there are no matters to raise, dig a little deeper. For further reading on confusion see ‘To Be Human Is To Feel Confused At times‘. You’re willing to place yourself on the line. Hey Rachel, If you’re serious, face to face or side by side is advised. I could not agree with your comment more. In these times I always try and remember two things. Do all discussions have to wait for this 15 minutes? Don’t get side tracked. No other adults adding their two bobs worth. It’s a daunting sentence yet it should make us curious. Moving on is easier said than done. This talk requires a distraction free environment. If you feel as though you can’t, there are trust issues. In all the above instances try to remain calm. There’s quite a large body of research that supports the importance of our inner dialogues. You may see it one way, yet the other person doesn’t agree at all. Doesn’t it feel good to accept yourself and others. No disturbances. Other conversations will end in stale mate. You immediately call him, asking for some clarification. You converse with the most important person in your life. Start this conversation with the aim of finishing amicably. What once united the both of you is now hard work. “We need to talk.” No context, no explanation. Since writing this post, I have heard the ‘We need to talk’ so many times. Procrastinator, How Many Times Are You Going to Put Things Off? Face to face. They are too worried about what might happen so they do nothing-which is worse! Yet you’re not looking to skimp on conversation, you’re looking to fix a problem. Once you’ve said “we need to talk” – in whatever words you use to say that – it’s not fair to make the other person wait for the news. No disturbances. Say for instance you don’t like confrontation due to the fact that family members used to abuse power and never let you have your say. People are not mind readers. I have something to said to you , I would like to share my thoughts .There is something on my mind .Do you have a minute ? Sounds like you know who is important to you and what they say matters. But on the other hand if it is a serious kind of energy…I do agree, but keep on reminding myself not to take in words emotionally. She enjoys assisting others develop personally. You do sound like a woman on a mission in your story. “If employees ever want to talk to me about a sensitive topic they usually ask if we can grab coffee or schedule a meeting with me,” she adds. Talking over you. Top Photos. It’s not about winning. Call delivery and order food for the family to be delivered when she gets home, so she doesn’t have to worry about it. Now if I’m the one who “needs to talk”, I’ll approach it and ask if there’s a good time (and I’ll offer a timeframe) – like anytime before _____. It’s a big statement saying you’re important to me. Say for instance a husbands business has begun to expand. It sounds as if you have well developed communication skills. Firstly you have to look at the reasons why you feel you can’t. I agree with you, the common reaction to the statement “we need to talk” is defensive and thinking of the worst may be coming. In a hurry to locate the cause for such a statement. You know before you begin how they may respond. Not meaning to, not consciously, but life gets busy. I haven't fucked up in a while but had one today I designed a 10 kva as 7200/12470Y-120/240 and it was supposed to have a 240/480 secondary. Speak from your own perspective. Not sleeping well. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue. It’s natural to feel this way. The mind has a field day, tormenting us with many different possibilities. Glad you enjoyed it. They are, perhaps, the most dreaded four words in the English language. What do you want to get out of the conversation? Hints are not specifics. 10 years ago. My girlfriend just called me and said "we need to talk" and she's coming over after I get off work. 280K likes. For more information on abuse see ‘Dear Domestic Violence‘. Friends smiling and yet there feels like a hidden agenda. These words don’t come from strangers. A guarantee. Instead of giving her his complete attention he sighs is aggravation? Someone you care deeply about has something on their mind and you’re involved. He even asks her to come into the office to help out. You converse with the most important person in your life. What do you want to get out of the conversation? Maybe they’re a friend. Maybe they’re a co-worker. Not the nasty stuff. It is time to move on. Most of the time these individuals try and throw some dirt your way. RELATED:  The Seven Deadly Sins Of A Relationship. This time adds up over a year. But what if the husband walks in from work and the wife says, “We need to talk”. Communication is one of the basic pillars of a successful relationship. He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. Because you feel fearless. She shares her thoughts and observations on the matter. Then go in search of all the different strategies that you may be able to apply to your life. NERVOUS KITTEN reply #3. emilija . As he leaves each morning he kisses his wife on the cheek and reminds her he will be late. We humans are a complex bunch, and even with all the loving intent in the worldit can be difficult to know what to say. Your right Yvonne these conversations should never be had when either person is fueled with rage. He immediately drops his brief case to the floor and goes to her side. Taking over and distressing us. She can’t seem to relax. She goes looking for hints. I can sound promising or concerning. I agree with you, the common reaction to the statement “we need to talk” is defensive and thinking of the worst may be coming. Regardless, it does help to know that things can turn out in any way imaginable. What happens if you don’t have the conversation? She specializes in identifying repeated patterns in behavior that hinder growth. And…If I can’t I just tell the person. Remaining open and approachable. He did not come as soon as I wanted him to so I got in my vehicle, left home and when I caught up with him I began to chase him down in my car. For more information on this topic see — ‘He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. Doing quick calculations in their mind. Secondly I try and remain as authentic to who I am as a person when communication starts to tense up. Either I’ll have to accept responsibility for something, or I’ll point something out to the person who has a perspective different than my own. Delivering, “We Need To Talk” means you have something on your mind and are prepared to express it. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue, 5 Easy Steps For Having A Hard Conversation, Putting off an important conversation? Chatting side by side. It’s about fixing a problem. When possible we should stop what we’re doing and give them our full attention. just-you-and-me-bbg reblogged this from leftphalange. I must tell “What a Fantastic Article On Communication”.Communication can build and ruin personal as well as professional relationships. This statement really does get a bad wrap. When he gets home he likes to relax, rather than go over the day’s events. Preparing herself for the worst possible outcome. I do. But allowing someone we respect to air their concerns and have us listening without being defensive will certainly help them off load. Always on guard. She can’t seem to relax. Explore each other, get to know one another a better. Ignoring his partners need to sit down and have a conversation. She could talk about issues she's having in her own life or in the relationship. An explanation. This declaration tells us something is up. That’s a great way to look at it. Over a period of a month the wife recognises her husband is arriving home 3 to 5 hours later than normal. Start this conversation with the aim of finishing amicably. It could mean only one thing… Understandably, you freak the hell out. if you don’t mind let me eat quite and when you’re calm down,we can talk in a more respectful way,please. This is where it gets tricky. WE NEED TO TALK. Someone you care deeply about has something on their mind and you’re involved. In all the above instances try to remain calm. Information. Wanting to discuss a matter that’s playing on your mind. it could mean he has met someone else or needs time to him self just talk 2 him if he brakes up with u then dont worry if u truly do love him he will come bac. Then get back to your issue. Describe the situation and how it impacted you. In this period you express both trivial and important matters. Bracing ourselves. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. Are they likely to become nasty or sarcastic? She’s worried. Someone you care deeply about has something on … Because you feel fearless. Thankfully his life was spared but I shared my testimony as a way of showing what our approach to others with just those few words can do in terms of escalating a situation to the point of destruction and God forbid, death. but the body language, the facial expression are all factors when we communicate. What do you do then? She could possibly be sensing there's something wrong with you and so wants to sit down and talk about it with you, in order to help you. The most unbalanced person can receive a message without losing it, given the right time, place and tone of voice. You care about the other person enough to want to have this conversation. Keep in mind if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you like to be presented with the same conversation? The mind has a field day, tormenting us with many different possibilities. It took a while, but I’ve gotten to a place where I know one of two things can happen. When a friend or loved one says ” We need to Talk”, I believe that the signal to give such conversation your full attention. Facial expressions give us plenty of feedback. He grabs hold of her, smiling broadly and explaining the growth in business. Question 2: I’m finding your words totally inappropriate in that moment. You’re emotionally attached to this person. I won’t get sucked into drama or anger. That can all be overcome by setting up times to discuss everything. Having the uncomfortable discussions does not mean things will change. Eye contact is not as intense as face to face. 8. He even asks her to come into the office to help out. And when you did it was never taken with any great seriousness. Here is how you take matters into your own hands. It doesn't matter if the person saying it is my girlfriend or not. Blame it on Auto-correct: Text = "Oh man, auto-correct is going to have a field day with what I want to say, can we see each other later?" Until finally she cannot stand it anymore. Usually, it’s the fear that I’m in trouble. You feel there is a problem but you can’t explain it. There’s a vulnerability to the discussion at your end. It should never be acceptable regardless of the excuse. We all want to lash out at times. A habit of putting aside all of life’s demands. From the receiving end of it, I’ve found it’s helpful to be ready to accept whatever it is that’s about to be said. Questioned if he still loves her. In some circumstances we know what conversation will follow. Here's what to do. Of course not. Nathaniel Hawthorne. We mentally go back in history when we have no idea what’s coming. Until he hires someone he will be home late on a regular basis. Say for instance a husbands business has begun to expand. Encouraging others to go easy on themselves through a transition of change. Keep writing for us !! Accept everyone for who they are. Don’t have a person building walls. He grabs hold of her, smiling broadly and explaining the growth in business. It never crossed his mind to inform his partner how busy he is. Until he hires someone he will be home late on a regular basis. Some relationships end naturally. Generally going into survival mode. All of a sudden our imagination activates to turbo. What is your motivation for a serious talk? Discussions of a sensitive nature, should be without interruption. This is really hard for me and always has been. Attempting to steer the conversation onto another subject. Ignoring his partners need to sit down and have a conversation. Troubled mind. Highlighting how valuable this time is. In a hurry to locate the cause for such a statement. It’s a daunting sentence yet it should make us curious. Finger pointing will always put people on the defensive. We both came to a stop when his car landed into a light pole. Don’t get side tracked. Even write these down. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. 3. You have shared some very helpful and practical ways for one to prepare for a ‘we need to talk’ conversation. Let me introduce you to my brain crew. I admire people so much who can just come right out and say what is troubling them. Don’t jump into their drama. 1. She says, “We need to talk”. It’s pointless trying to fix an issue with a person who does not appreciate themselves nor you. Preparation for such talks is to ensure we finish what we start, get the message across and allow the other person to absorb what has been said. The post shares many tips on how to prepare for important talks because as we are nothing more than human, things won’t always go as planned. A… Be patient. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share it on your favorite social media site. 1. Is this person an interrupter? This powerful time together can’t be under estimated. We shouldn’t feel vulnerable around true friends. Without the “We need to talk” discussion, situations can blow way out of proportion. Start asking questions. Don’t we love happy endings? Creating its own answers to the issue. Words – so innocent and powerless as they are, as standing in a dictionary, how potent for good and evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. If I do this, I’m not in a defensive state and I’ll listen. That’s emotional intelligence at its best. Generally going into survival mode. youcantspellanumberwrong reblogged this from leftphalange. The friendship may be on the line anyway. Friends smiling and yet there feels like a hidden agenda. Also its very difficult to handle some situations. what does it mean when your bf says "we need to talk" after he has been away for 2 weeks and u have only had contact with him twice? These words don’t come from strangers. This declaration tells us something is up. Asks, “What now?” and says, “It seems like you have always got something urgent to talk about.”. When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. You probably won’t be believed the first time you say this, but just keep saying it and believing it enough for both of you. A response. You’ve brought up a topic I think a good number of us can relate to. The friendship may be on the line anyway. Are they likely to become nasty or sarcastic? I agree with everything you have said. If one person is travelling put in an effort to do this over the phone. Domestic violence – physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, sexual or financial abuse. Having the uncomfortable discussions does not mean things will change. By talking to and understanding each other, you’ll make the relationship last. 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